Life is all about making changes – even with Feng Shui.

Over the last couple of years, I’ve watched people go through various changes. Some changes were remarkable life-cycle changes. Some changes were minor, incremental changes. Some changes were burdensome, gut-wrenching, unexpected, and inevitable changes. 

For instance, my friend leaped from working as a massage therapist and yoga instructor to pursuing graduate studies and becoming a clinical psychologist. She found love and is now engaged to a beautiful human. And she wasn’t the only one. Over the last couple of years, I have seen people create magnificent, life-altering changes, too. 

It’s great when we initiate the change. But what happens when a circumstance changes from an outside force, something we cannot control? It can feel like we are blind-sided because we didn’t trigger it.  

The struggle with change is simple: Change interferes with autonomy and can make us feel like we’ve lost control.

It can feel like our need for self-determination is ripped away from us – like the rug being pulled out from under your feet. Next thing we know, we are pinwheeling our arms, flailing around, trying to regain some semblance of balance. 

And it can feel like the impact of change goes on and on and on. Like tossing a pebble into a pond, change creates ripples, reaching distant spots in ever-widening circles in our lives that you didn’t know could be affected.

When you are in the thick of it and feel like the changes keep bumping up against you, you can feel despondent and broken. It hurts to be there, especially if you are feeling alone. 

I’ve certainly been there a time or two myself. I’ve learned that people need so much kindness and compassion. Because we really don’t know what people are carrying in their hearts.

With a bit of balance, we can start to trust that everything will be okay, and we can take a deep breath and find a path forward.

Having worked in Feng Shui for over 12 years, I can say that I have never seen anyone want anything that wasn’t for one reason: You have an innate knowing that makes you want to gravitate toward what makes you feel better.

When people tune into the fact that something is out of balance or feels a bit ‘off’ in their life, they want to right it. As quickly as possible, they want to get to what makes them feel better.

The faster we can diagnose the root cause, the quicker we can get on the path to something that feels better. The trick is learning to not only listen to our intuition but to trust it, even if our concerns have been dismissed by others and make us doubt ourselves and our instincts.

What to do when you feel like something is a bit ‘off’? Get down to diagnosing the root of the issue. 

1. Get quiet. “Only when the eyes are closed can you truly see,” is a quote by Jedi Master Quinlan Vos. Okay, it’s fiction, but wise words nonetheless.
2. Write it down. It can help to keep a journal of your thoughts so you don’t brush things away or simply forget them. Pay attention to the clues that will guide your actions.
3. Really listen. There is a voice talking to you and telling you how you feel on the inside. Listen to it. Although listening sounds simple enough, your intuition cannot speak to you if you are not listening. The trick is learning to not only listen to our intuition but to trust it, even if our concerns have been dismissed by others and make us doubt ourselves and our instincts.
4. Find your people and stick with them. Surround yourself with people who support you. Enlist the help of trusted family and friends that can help you develop and sharpen your intuition.

These few steps can help tap into more peace. With a bit of peace, we can tap into a sense of balance and strength, and we can start to trust that everything will be okay. We can take a deep breath and find a clear path forward.

From a Chinese Metaphysics perspective, this lack of balance can show up in a person’s Four Pillars of Destiny/BaZi chart and can be reflected in a person’s Feng Shui. These resources can be beneficial on the path to making things feel ‘righted,’ even if it looks different on the other side.

Feeling like you want help getting clear on making changes? My door is open to help.